It is natural to become upset when we see someone take an action, or say something which goes against our beliefs or is hurtful to us. At some point however, these actions lose their emotional impact.
I’m reminded of one of my favorite parables:
A scorpion asks a frog to carry it across a river. The frog hesitates, afraid of being stung, but the scorpion argues that if it did so, they would both drown. Considering this, the frog agrees, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both. When the frog asks the scorpion why, the scorpion replies that it was in its nature to do so.
There are plenty of individuals and organizations which have upset me, and as such are no longer part of my life. I avoid them and try to avoid the actions which run counter to my beliefs.
However… There are ALSO plenty of these individuals and organizations STILL in my life. At some point I decided “they are, who they are” and made the conscious decision I’d structure my relationship with this knowledge in mind. You can deal with a scorpion, as long as you avoid its stinger.
Getting Upset After Getting Stung
Every so often, someone will approach me and ask:
“Aren’t you upset that so-and-so said this thing?”
No, I don’t get upset. I know I’m dealing with a scorpion.
The only reason YOU get stung, is because despite all evidence to the contrary: you keep pretending you’re dealing with a frog.